Funerals are one of the most sobering moments in life. You pause and reflect on life itself, not on the multitude of daily activities that take up all your time and attention. Sitting there, you ask yourself deep questions like: What have I done? Am I leading the life I want? Have I accomplished anything worthwhile? Am I as loving with others as I should be? Have I spent time on what matters?
Bronnie Ware, author of The Top Five Regrets of the Dying - which has sold over a million copies - interviewed a lot of people she came across in her work as a nurse.
She asked them what they most regreted about their life now that death was near.
I strongly recommend you get a copy of her book (see the link below). But even if you don't read her book, you can imagine the answers people gave. Answers that should give us pause for thought - and hopefully deliberate decisions - so we can make changes now well before we're in a similar situation ourselves.
Here's what they said.
The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
- I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
- I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
- I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
- I wish I'd let myself be happier.
Whew! Look at that. These are so simple, yet so profund. And aren't they the truth?! These five things are very important to living a life that matters.
Rather than me clouding the profound truth of these five statements, grab a cuppa, find some space, and ponder how they relate to your life.
Think about them with your mind, but listen to the answers with your heart. What is it saying?
Perhaps Get A Copy of Her Book
Click the link below to go to Amazon to buy it. (I get a small commission, the price is the same to you.)
Either Way, Do What Matters
Today, this week, make sure you do something worthwhile that relates to the list we've looked at today. Change the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying into 5 Features of My Life.
Make sure you can say:
- I'm living a life that is true to myself, not one that others expect.
- I don't work too hard - I do work I love, with energy and joy.
- I express my feelings - I say what I really think, but in appropriate ways.
- I keep in touch with friends. It's hard work, but it's important.
- I give myself full permission to be happy.
Now, doesn't that feel better?